October 25, 2011 with 10 Comments

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Dating tips for the single christian guy

There is no better time to be a Christian single guy than right now.

As Jesus would say, the field is truly plentiful but the laborers are few.

Guys, in case you’re not reading between the lines, if you’re single and interested, there’s no better time to be alive than the present.

The moment you walk into a church you can sense the biological clocks ticking. The single ladies are alive and well.

You’ve got no excuses.

Except perhaps ignorance as to the mind of most single Christian gals, which is why I’m doing you a great service and giving you tips to close the deal with the single Christian gal of your choice right now..

Don’t wait another day. Here’s how:

1. Don’t be afraid to talk. Guys, we see you in the church lobby. You’re not as extinct as we’d like to complain. But you sure seem to be afraid to open your mouth and talk. No…I don’t mean talking to the ushers. I mean find the gaggle of single girls in the lobby and say the first thing that comes to your mind. Just because you talk to the single girls doesn’t mean you’re going to marry them, but it’s a start.

2. Don’t be afraid to call. You can facebook her, you can twitter her, you can google her, but the quickest way to close the deal is to pick up the phone and call her. It will prove you’ve got confidence and panache. Remember, just because you call her doesn’t mean you’re going to marry her. But it’s a start. Oh, if you’re wondering how to get her number, go back and review point #1!

3. Don’t be afraid to ask. We know. We’ve heard you complain. The girls are too picky. They always say no. You’re tired of rejection. But guys, you know what they say: you’ve got to kiss a lot of frogs….Listen, if you keep getting no’s, it’s probably because you’re asking the wrong girl. But don’t be afraid to keep on asking. You will eventually get a yes! Remember that the field is plentiful. You will never run out of great Christian gals interested in potentially tying the knot. You won’t know until you ask.

4. Don’t be afraid to pay. Yes I’m serious. Some basic dating etiquette will take you a long way. If you can’t pay for dinner, the girl will assume you won’t be able to pay for your happily ever after. So get your wallet out and be a man. Girls like guys who treat them like a girl. Open doors. Pull out chairs. And don’t overstay.

5. Don’t be afraid to love. If you’re over 12 and you’re still single chances are that you’ve been hurt by a member of the opposite sex already. Frankly, my big hurt happened when I was 10 but who’s counting. The greatest hindrance to your dating future is your dating past. Will you put past hurts aside and give one of the many single gals waiting for you a chance? You won’t get over the past until you face the future.

6. Don’t be afraid to lead. Women have gotten so bossy lately, haven’t they? They don’t give a guy a second to speak. They’re rushing and restless. You might as well just hide under a rock until the avalanche passes. Right? Wrong! Listen, there’s nothing more appealing to most women than a guy who isn’t afraid of stepping up to the plate and leading. Stop blaming it all on the snake. God made you the leader. It’s time to own up to it! We will gladly sit back and shut up – ok, so maybe I’m just speaking for myself here, but that’s something!

So….I just gave you a whole lot of bla bla bla simply to say this – guys, get a clue. You’re a rare commodity and the ball is in your court.

PS: we’re glad we’re not you. We know how hard it is to be a single Christian guy. But don’t let anyone know I said that.

Now it’s up to you to do something about your single life!

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  • E-Dub

    I don’t think we should have to say anything, make any phone calls, ask, or especially—pay…totally kidding. Great post Lina. #6 is huge. I think sometimes guys increase the pressure on themselves by trying to plan out the spiritual leadership perfectly before it even starts. I think the key is just to make a conscious effort in the first place to lead. And to make sure to keep that up as the dating progresses, and not to get caught up in the whole lovey-dovey “I’m so happy to have someone” mentality. I sth many women

  • E-Dub

    Accidentally hit publish before I was done. Food for thought: many women I’ve spoken to have told me that they would rather have a guy trying hard to lead spiritually (and maybe doing just an okay job at it) than to not do so at all.

    • Lina

      Thanks for the comment E! Love your thoughts and don’t hesitate to forward to ur single guy friends;)

  • E-Dub

    They’ve got mail. Haha.

  • Nick

    Great post Lina. Ill admit Ive been using many of those excuses lately. Over the weekend I said ” what the heck, ill give it a shot.” Actually going out for sushi tomorrow

    • Lina

      Woot woot! Way to go nick!

  • Jennifer

    I’m passing this along to my 22 year old twin sons.

  • Amber

    Amen sister! Ok, so I may print many copies off and post them all over church :-)

  • Gina

    This post was super important for all of us.

    Don’t be afraid to ask. take that step.

  • http://rick.rcdavisfamily.com Wikiriki

    Are you kidding me??? I wouldn’t risk my heart on a woman again if you paid me a million dollars! The last time, I barely escaped with my life, literally! No, love stinks! It wasn’t until later that I wised-up and read Proverbs 4:23. The writer, some say he was the wisest man that ever lived and definitely had his share of experience with women, prefaced his utmost golden wisdom with these three words: “Above all else…” That would indicate that what he had to say next was pretty darn important, wouldn’t you say?

    Then he goes on to warn those who might heed his advice and experience by telling us who don’t know better what countless throng who’ve suffered before us have already learned from their own horrible experience:

    “…guard your heart, for out of it come the issues of LIFE!” [emphasis added]

    And those who don’t guard their heart are simply fools, like sheep going to the slaughter.

    So, what kind of Christian are you if you don’t heed the Word of God?