March 2, 2011 with 22 Comments

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Dating Tips from Justin Bieber

I have a huge dilemma in my life. Do I rejoin eharmony or not?

This may not seem like a huge deal to most people especially since people in the real world face real dilemmas – like the rising gas prices and global warming and stuff. But I figured I hit a new low when I found out that Justin Bieber finally got a girlfriend.

Yes he did. That 14 year old twerp with the hair has a girlfriend while I try to decide whether or not I should rejoin eharmony.

My theory is that eharmony is trying to trick me. I was on it for 3 months and never heard a peep from tom, dick, or john. But in the week since I’ve quit, I can’t keep up with the number of faceless requests for friendship.

Wanna find out what Arthur looks like? For $35 a month you can. So until I get my tax refund, I can ponder the merits of online dating or any dating for that matter.

And since this is a Christian website aimed at providing Biblical insights for every day living, I thought this would be a great time to consider these dating tips from Justin Bieber:

1. Don’t go public too soon. Rumors about Justin’s love life have been floating around for a while, but we only just had a public sighting of J man and his girl at the Oscars. I’ve learned this the hard way. As much as you’d like the whole world to know your true love now, take a tip from Justin: don’t go public until you’re sure you’re an item.

2. Don’t get physical too soon. Justin was caught canoodling with his new love in the back seat of the Oscars arena. Gag me with a spoon. Hey Justin – why don’t you wait until you turn 16 at least. If you’re a Christian, get a clue: if you’re aiming for purity until marriage, set some parameters. Here’s another tip: don’t spend lots of time alone in your apartment. Bad things happen when the lights go down and no one is watching.

3. Don’t get cocky too soon. One of the reasons everybody loves Justin is that he’s just so boy next door won’t hurt your dog sweet. His humility makes even you want to date him. Apply the same principles in dating. Respect your date and treat them kindly even if you decide to say goodbye at hello. Humility goes a long way. Odds are you’ll run into your date at the singles group. Don’t make it more uncomfortable than it has to be.

4. Don’t go viral too soon. Some guys become too cool too soon. Justin Bieber is one of them. Then there’s the late bloomer. We’ve all seen the movie. The nerds don’t finish last. They’re the ones who end up with the jobs and the smarts. Here’s a final tip: Justin today gone tomorrow. Why don’t you hold out for the real gems?

Bottom line is, I still haven’t answered the original question: to eharmony to not to eharmony?

Your thoughts?

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  • Brittney

    I personally liked the ‘Justin today gone tomorrow’. ;)
    Thanks for the tips from the Biebs- his tween romance might be a good way NOT to do it God’s way. Joshua Harris needs to contact him.
    Funny side note- we were introducing ourselves to our newest small group member with our name and 1 interesting fact. One gal said, without a hitch, “My name is SoAndSo, and I have Bieber fever.”

  • Shoebox

    It depends on what you want…do you want put time and effort into potentially finding a relationship? Everyone knows it takes work sorting through the sand to find a sparkly piece of gold…and even if you find gold – it needs to be pure and not some “fools” gold! Are you ready to put some of “your” time into meeting new dudes? Or will you just find it a burden to sort through the requests? If it sounds like too much – curb it and revisit in 6 months…but during those 6 months no complaining about no dates is allowed. …so I guess the question is…what is keeping you from $35 a month? I personally think it would be a fun adventure!

    • lina

      you’re right, what’s $35 bucks compared to a lifetime of happiness!? ha. always love your dating tips shoebox. glad to hear from you. i’ll keep you posted on this!

  • Denise Archambault

    Here’s a thought…maybe, since you only have 2 jobs right now, an amazing daily blog, and a Twitter following, you could start your own on-line dating service. You know lots of women, and it’s somewhat likely that those women have single friends, brothers, cousins, sons, maybe even uncles….you get the idea. With the new Aurora facility, you have all of the media resources available to make this really work. And, if you get involved in the screening process, you get first pick. I see this working….really well. Just a thought.

    • lina

      ok, this is good and don’t think it hasn’t crossed my mind. i have to think how we could execute it. with all the HBC fellowship churches our pool of guys would be exponentially bigger, and getting first dibs is a bonus. hm…

  • ramzi

    It’s not what we think. You are gonna have to learn how to make a man happy, be it online or offline. Mostly online will turn into offline immediately (after a phone call). The question is are you ready to make the man happy. And it doesn’t matter what religion he is either you will still have to make him happy.

    • lina

      the real question is, will i find a man ready to make me happy. ha, just kidding.

      • ramzi

        Dating is about finding a way to make the other person happy. When you do that, you will be happy in return.

  • Milo

    Cast a lot

    • ramzi

      or find a desperate man who is a doctor….looking for wife….it guarantee work…

  • Debby

    A friend had the same theory about eHarmony- lots of potential dates only when the subscription was expiring. But she stuck with it, met her true love and got married last sept.

  • Kina

    Make sure that whatever you decide to do it must be for the right reasons, so get your heart’s intentions right before God and be very honest and transparent. With that said here’s some alternatives regardless;

    There are many other ways to meet men casually besides online. There are some Christian & non-christian groups all around Chicagoland area that meet up to hang out and get to know each other. For example, meetup.com. Be sure to search specifically for Christian singles if you want. I have joined a secular group for professionals and found Christian men within that setting too! Try other churches which may have a very active and/or large Singles population that host events and activities to increase exposure to meeting men. Visit their websites and look up what’s happening in their Singles Ministry. About several weeks ago, I went to Willow Creek for a Singles luncheon – for example. Spring is near, so also consider getting out more too. I’ll let you know if more ideas come to mind. Peace.

    • Lina

      Great tips! Thx Kina! I’ll squeeze those suggestions in in my free time!
      For readers following this thread: I decided to save my $35 and use it for give aways instead:)

      • Shoebox

        Ahhh – she decides!! Well – congrats on landing on a decision! Now I can rest well knowing it’s a done deal for now….
        I like to look at relationships through a serving light – do you work well serving the Lord together? If so – awesome starting ground…maybe you should serve in the sports ministry? just sayin’…. ;)

  • http://www.oakridgeprep.com Pam

    Great topic! Here is another 2 cents from an old married lady.

    1. Don’t sit around thinking about it anymore. I know, I know…. really really hard to do that when that is all you want. I liked what The Pioneer Woman said to those looking for love, are you a happy person? Are you a really really happy person? You see we each have control of that in this moment of time and the future moments of time that will come whether we are married or not. I know what you’re thinking, oh that’s easy for you to say… not it’s not. As a stay at home Mom I constantly think the others in my family and what Jesus wants me to do. I constantly look to Jesus to be happy in the moment… right now. You see it’s a choice. Is Jesus enough right now.. today… this afternoon… this evening?

    My advice to singles that feel like they are waiting, look for adventures with Jesus. I would be apart of local missions and faith growing international missions because Jesus has a heart for the lost and hurting. That is what Love really is and it will fill you love tank like nothing else even if you an old married lady or young beautiful Christian girl looking for love in all the right churches.

    2. eHarmany & $35 – no clue on that one, but let us know what you decide. :D

  • Kina

    We are to be well balanced in every area of our lives whether its working within the kingdom of God, socially, or at work and wanting to get married. Marriage is holy. Though society may not hold it in much regards. It is established by God. Anyone who desires it must have a balanced perspective on the purpose of marriage from God’s perspective and take the necessary steps to prepare for it. Taking steps to meet others with that same perspective is wise.

  • http://www.oakridgeprep.com Pam

    One few more things, I would make a list of what he must be if he is to be The Guy and pray about the list with a close friend.

    I would also read these books by VODDIE BAUCHAM What He Must Be (If He Wants to Marry My Daughter) & Family Driven Faith. It will help you think about the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and the kind of family you want to have.

    I’ve heard Mark Driscoll talk about the very immature men in our culture that never want to grow up. I have girlfriends that got stuck with many of them because they pined for a Man, any Man. No one wants to get married to be a Mom to their husband so you have to find someone who can lead you family spiritually as well as in other areas.

    If you think about wanting a husband you can lose focus of what you want and settle for so much less than what God wants for our families.

  • Kina

    The book on What He Must Be is geared more so towards the father figure, not so much towards the single woman in my opinion when I read it. But I did hear that he was interviewed by someone (forgot who) and THAT interview was perfect for single women to hear. Also, I believe Bauchman does conferences surrounding this topic. But check it out for yourself. There are all types of books, conferences, workshops and resources to help us prepare God’s way. There should be no excuses for not knowing if you’ve done your homework and please remember to stay prayerful and well-balanced! Do everything as unto the LORD. Peace.

    • http://www.oakridgeprep.com Pam

      Everyone can glean from Voddie. He was raised by a young, I think teen, single Buddhist Mom in a poor part of LA. Voddie has great words of wisdom on marriage and family because he and his wife were the first generation in “x” generations that didn’t get divorced. He is a powerful man with powerful words.

      That book doesn’t have to be applied only to Fathers. Not all of us have had fathers that were emotionally and verbally able to articulate what Voddie has said. Family and friends can and should be a huge support system to unmarried Christian women and men.

      • Kina

        For clarification, I am saying this book is addressing fathers mostly. It’s geared towards those who are fathers. Those who are in a father figure role. But it is not talking primary to single women. The perspective is with a view of a father in my opinion. Read it and see if that’s your take on it.

        • lina

          kina and pam, i must admit this is a very interesting discussion! both of you have great comments and feedback. i may just buy that voddie book anyway!

          • Kina

            Yes, go buy it and maybe we can discuss it again later.

            I just read that HBC is hosting a conference next month, LoveLife with Mark Discroll, April 1 & 2. It sounds like a good one for singles and married folks. Consider going.