5 Things every Single Christian Needs

It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself if you’re single, especially if you’re Christian and single.

You shut the door to your apartment and think about all the couples in the world sharing marital bliss.

You eat a second pint of ice cream and tell yourself that if you would only lose those 5 extra pounds someone would surely marry you.

You tell yourself all kinds of lies. You tell yourself that nobody really cares about you. You tell yourself that God has forgotten all about you. And if you’re not careful, before long you’ll start believing the lies.

At the heart of every lie you believe is a deep sense of unfulfilled need in your life. If I were to ask you to make a list of your needs, your list may look a little bit like this: sex, unconditional love, children.

While your list may be worthwhile, I’d like to give you 5 things every Christian single needs in order to live a fully satisfying life:

1. Community. I believe that most single Christians have an unfulfilled life because they lack a sense of community. Our churches are getting bigger, our schedules are getting busier, and community is becoming more extinct. The happiest singles I have met are the ones who have carved for themselves a close knit of godly friends to prevent a growing sense of isolation.

2. Devotion. The greatest benefit of being single according to the Bible is the freedom to live with undivided devotion to the Lord (I Corinthians 7:35). Are you fully devoted to the Lord? Do you pursue him with passion and zeal? He has already given you His unconditional steadfast love. Is it not enough to meet your needs?

3. Service. Another Biblical benefit of singleness is the freedom to serve Christ and His church freely (I Corinthians 7:32-34). If you’re single and complaining about not having a spouse, my first question to you is “where are you serving Christ right now?”. Once you begin pouring your life in the lives of others, you will see self-pity dissipate faster than you can blink.

4. Purity. If all you think you need is sex, you’re thinking about sex way too much. The antidote to your perceived need for sex is a desperate need for purity. So watch what you’re reading, and watch what you’re watching. It’s easier to blame God for your sin and for not providing a spouse than to live purely. Easier, but not right.

5. Perspective. What you need most as a Christian single is perspective. Marriage is not the end all of life. Marriage doesn’t cure every problem known to mankind. God does not love married people more than he loves single ones. You can do more than survive as a single. You can live a great and God honoring life that bears fruit.

Maybe you’re wondering why I keep going back to this topic of singleness? It’s because it keeps coming up. So, if you’re married and know someone who is single, send them a link to this post, and tell them you love them.

They need to hear it!

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