February 11, 2012 with 16 Comments

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What single people think

Single people can often be deluded.

They think along these lines…..

“I’m single but if I were married,

I’d be grateful for my husband always.

I’d make him breakfast in the morning.

I’d ask him how his day went when he walked in the door at night.

I’d have dinner ready for him by 6 with candles burning softly.

I’d let him control the remote.

I’d say yes and never fake it.

I’d get along with his mother.

I’d hold his hand in church.

I’d wear his favorite color.

I’d never yell, nag, or whine.

And my lovely husband….

He’d remember my birthday

And ask about my feelings, or simply know by looking

He’d open the door for me

And play with the kids while I went shopping

He’d massage my back after supper

And tell me just how beautiful I am

He’d… ”

Ya.

Single people need to get married.

Or simply wake up from their sleep.

The winner of yesterday’s Valentine’s Day dinner award goes to Kristi Davis. All I can tell you is that her story is A-mazing. Can’t wait for the day when she can share it more openly. 

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  • Milo

    Yea, I agree. Single people should get married, this will wake the up quickly to reality.

  • Suzanne

    ha ha! I am not that naive. I am looking more for a partner in life. A companion to do things together and go though lifes ups and downs with someone watching your back and holding you up and you hold him up. Someone I can have a debate and disagree with yet still be best friends. He wants a smart wife not a door mat. So there Doc…
    I know its not perfects and a struggle. I have enough friends that have divorced (Christians) and non Christians that have good marriages. It more about the character of the man and women. Still have not made a Tuesday.. Its a long drive…

    • Lina

      Suzanne – you and I are old and jaded:) but rembrr when we used to think that back in the day?! Get yourself to Tuesday night class. We have cars now and we don’t have a curfew!

  • http://kentostby.com Kent

    One time we were playing Taboo in a mixed group of singles and couples.

    One of the singles said “This is what married couples do every night before they go to sleep.”

    There were several guesses as to what this might be from a single’s point of view, but no one guessed the word.

    It was “hug” which never entered the minds of the couples playing.

    • Lina

      That’s actually quite funny kent!

  • Laura Plum

    This sounds like a list I would have made in my early twenties. Funny how a little dose of reality and life experience can put a spin on things. Now I’m looking for a flawed man who loves the Lord and has the patience to share life with a flawed me. Thanks for the post!

  • http://kentostby.com Kent

    As a single guy, I think my list was:

    We will have sex twice a day.

  • suzanne

    Some would be ok with that.

  • Candy Fulsher

    Rofl! Then comes the list of the expectations of new parents. I can vouch that that list of expectations is delusional also. My precious Gerber babies are now teens. About the time we begin to like them, they grow up and move out. The marriage roles turn into more of a Co-drill Sargent scene. Dinner is ready when it is ready, and no one better point out that I may have not made a vegetable or starch to go with the meal. Everything was going to be June cleaver-ish in my mind. Then reality struck! oh well, I guess I’ll just bloom where I’m planted. Its my crazy life, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything except for maybe a week of being single again. I’m sure if that was the case, I would have more time, more money, less stress, I would eat more salads, read more books, do more volunteer work and my house would be spotless. The grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence!

  • Gina

    Suzanne’s 1st comment really good. Interesting list. But not reality of any relationship. I woke up still single and still cool w it. The list did make me smile alittle. Congrats Kristi! :) man I was hoping 2 win and take myself on a date. Just kidding ;) great post Dr.L Suzanne go to biblestudy. Im already in trouble u can sit w our group!

  • Caitlin Natsch

    This made me laugh VERY hard. I love it! Thanks for making me smile!

  • Sharon

    I agree with other posters… This list is for those in their 20′s, thinking marriage is going to be all the above. I have never been married, but would never think it’s all the above. That said, I could really go for a husband if only to have my man chores done… I can’t stand man chores (mowing the lawn, shoveling/snowblowing, taking out the garbage, etc, etc, etc…).

    Seriously though, to have a partner in life, as Suzanne said, would be helpful. Honestly though, to have someone to walk through life with would be nice. Sometimes it’s hard to come home to an empty house – even if mine isn’t all that empty anymore.

  • http://www.missbiblehere.blogspot.com Miss

    As I see married couples in church, I see very clearly that marriage is hard work.

    There are times when I want to get married, and there are times when I’m glad I’m not.

  • Gina

    Morning Sunday! I was listening to lectures. There is something to a persons voice /tone that will grab u,hold you 2 keep listening. Their voice changes levels /pitches. If u listen closely u will hear the message. Sunday is about worship prayer. Thank-you.Happy Sunday. Make today a blessing 4some 1 :)

  • Gina

    today powerful. beautiful. sad.Whitney Houston passed. Always will be remembered 4 her voice. Jennifer Hudson,if 1 closed their eyes it sounded like Whitney. Adele her voice Simply angelic,soothing 2 ur ears. For all of this Lord my heart is warm &full. Thank-you Dr.Lina. foe letting me share :)

  • Dannel

    The grass is always greener on the other side.  I’m so thankful that God knows what shade of “grass” He wants us to live with!!!  And, I’m thankful that He equips us to live the “shade” He’s chosen for us in a way that is pleasing to Him.